The energy and power of being in the city were indescribable and unmatched by anything else that I had ever experienced. Being in Oaxaca for the Dia de Los Muertos celebrations was not something for which I could have prepared myself.
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Their attitude toward death wasn’t avoidance and fear, it was a full confrontation with offerings, music, reverance, and even humor. It was shocking to me to know that there were people out there, not only comfortable talking about their pain, but to be able to face it full-force. If someone brought up how they were still hurting from a past event, they would get ignored or the listener would pretend to not know what they were talking about. In my family, grief and loss (really any negative emotion or event) is swept under the rug and ignored. I had known about the Dia de los Muertos celebrations for a while from a Oaxacan anthropology professor I had in college, so I had my heart already set on the city. I asked my husband if he would go to the Dia de los Muertos celebrations in Oaxaca for our honeymoon, and he agreed. I knew it would be healing for me to see how others dealt with loss, and going to the celebrations felt like a way of incorporating my grandmother into my wedding. My husband and I had a Halloween wedding, and so the timing of our honeymoon coincided with the Day of the Dead / Dia de los Muertos celebrations in Mexico. I have also never dealt well with vulnerability and being open with my family, so I felt awkward incorporating her into my wedding. Even though she had been gone for over a decade, I still missed her and considered her one of the most important people in my life. When I was planning my wedding two years ago, I had a hard time dealing with the fact that my grandmother, who passed away in my teen years, would not be there.
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